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everyone’s best friend — russian Р
So I can roll my р’s no problem. I’m just confused as to what the difference is between the hard and soft Р. Where you put your tongue on words like русски, рад, and родной
словарь, рядом, and ребенок?
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The position of the middle of the tongue makes the main difference. When pronouncing «рь», your tongue’s tip occupies the same place as with «р», but its middle part is risen upwards like for the [i] sound.
Everyone’s Doing The Best That They Can
“All I know is that my life is better when I assume that people are doing their best. It keeps me out of judgment and lets me focus on what is, and not what should or could be.”
My favorite principle is this simple truth: Everyone is doing the best that they can with the resources they have. Adopting this belief has radically changed my relationship to myself and to others.
This idea has been explored by a constellation of religious, spiritual, and wellness practitioners. As Deepak Chopra said, “People are doing the best that they can from their own level of consciousness.”
At first, it’s a hard concept for us to swallow. In a culture that constantly urges us to do more, to be better, and to excel, “I’m doing the best that I can” sounds like complacency—like an excuse. But what if we took a step back from our culture’s infinite growth paradigm and considered, “What if, right now, there is a limit to what I can achieve? Can I be okay with that?”
I first stumbled across this principle a few weeks after I quit drinking in 2020. It was a challenging time for me. In the absence of alcohol, I watched my anxiety soar.
I stayed away from bars and clubs to avoid temptation, but then felt guilty and “boring” for spending Saturday nights at home. When I met up with friends who’d previously been drinking buddies, our interactions felt stilted. I knew sobriety was the healthiest choice for me, but I couldn’t accept the way it impacted my ability to be social. I felt like I wasn’t trying hard enough.
I spent weeks in a frustrated mind space until I stumbled across that precious idea: “I’m doing the best I can with the resources at my disposal.”
At first, I recoiled. The high achiever in me—the climber, the pusher—scoffed at the suggestion that I was doing my best. “But other people have healthy relationships with alcohol. Other people maintain active, thriving social lives.”
But in that moment, I realized that my negative self-talk was an exercise in futility. It never boosted my inspiration or activated me toward progress. It just sparked a shame spiral that sunk me deeper into inaction and guilt.
So over time, I began to internalize this idea as my own. And as I did, I felt like a blanket of comfort had been draped over me. For the first time in weeks, I could sit back on my couch and watch Vampire Diaries without hating myself. It enabled me to find peace in the present moment and accept—not even accept, but celebrate—that I was doing the absolute best that I could.
I’ve found that this principle has been easiest for me to internalize when I’ve been going through deep stuff.
After a painful breakup last August, it took all of my energy to drag myself from bed in the morning. My intense emotions were riding shotgun, which sometimes meant canceling plans last minute, postponing work calls, or calling a friend to cry it out.
Because I was so obviously using all of my inner resources to get through each day, it was easy for me to accept that I was doing the best that I could. Throughout those months, I gave myself total permission not to do more, not to be “better.” For that very reason, those painful months were also some of the most peaceful months of my life.
Here’s the thing, though: We don’t have to hit rock bottom in order to show ourselves compassion.
We don’t need to be heartbroken, shattered, or at wit’s end. Maybe we’re just having a rough day. Maybe we’re feeling anxious. See, our abilities in any given moment depend entirely on our inner resources, and our inner resources are constantly in a state of flux depending on our emotions (pain, stress, anxiety, fear), our physicality (sickness, ailments, how much sleep we got), our histories (the habits we’ve adopted, the trauma we’ve experienced, the socialization we’ve internalized), and so much more.
When we consider everything that affects our capacity to show up as we’d like to be, we realize how narrow-minded our negative self-talk is. We also begin to understand that everyone comes from a wildly complex, diverse array of experiences, and that comparisons among us are useless.
Consider how this idea can be applied in some more challenging situations:
The Friend Who Is Stuck In A Cycle of Stagnancy
This goes for anyone who complains about a monotonous cycle in their life but can’t seem to break it: the friend who hates their job but doesn’t leave it, or the friend who complains about their partner but won’t end their relationship.
Those of us on the receiving end of our friend’s complaints may get tired of hearing the same story every day. But our advice to “just leave your job” or “just break up” will fall on deaf ears because it’s not that simple. They are doing the best that they can in that moment because their current need for familiarity and security outweighs their desire for exploration.
They are experiencing a tension within their desires, but don’t yet have the ability to act on that tension. The limitations of their emotional (or sometimes, financial) resources make it difficult for them to move on.
By accepting that we’re doing the best we can, we give ourselves the gift of self-acceptance and self-love. Only from this place can positive, sustainable changes to actions or behaviors be made
The Parents Who Hurt Us When We Were Kids
It can be especially challenging to apply this principle to those who have wounded us most deeply. But oftentimes, those are the folks most deserving of our compassion.
Parents have a responsibility to their children, and parents who hurt, neglect, shame, or otherwise harm their children are not doing their job as parents. But sometimes, our parents can’t do their jobs well because they don’t have the resources at their disposal. And even then, they are doing the best that they can.
More than likely, our parents didn’t learn the necessary parenting skills from their own parents. Maybe they never got therapy to heal old wounds or never developed the coping skills necessary to handle intense emotions. This principle can be very challenging, yet very healing, when applied to parents and other family members.
The Binge Eater (Or Other Addict)
This used to be me, and it took me years to accept that even when I was in the thick of my eating disorders, I was doing the best that I could.
From the outside, the solution seems simple: “Put down the cake.” “Don’t have a third serving.” But for folks with addiction issues—food, alcohol, sex, drugs, you name it—the anxiety or emptiness of not engaging with the addiction can be insurmountable.
Resisting the impulse to fill an inner void requires extensive resources, including self-love, self-empowerment, and oftentimes, a web of support from friends and family. Folks in the throes of addiction are caught in a painful cycle of indulgence, shame, and self-judgment, which makes it all the more difficult to develop the emotional resources necessary to resist the tug of the addiction.
But by accepting that they’re doing the best they can, they give themselves the gift of self-acceptance and self-love. Only from this place can we make positive, sustainable changes to our actions or behaviors.
It’s worth noting: Our actions have consequences, and when we harm others, we should be held accountable. But simultaneously, we can acknowledge that we are doing the best that we can, even when we “fall short” in others’ eyes. Forgiving ourselves (and others) is an emotional experience that transcends logic or justice. We can make the conscious choice not to hold ourselves to a constant standard of absolute perfection.
Believing that we are all doing the best that we can opens our hearts to kindness and compassion. It allows us to see one another as humans, flaws and all. Next time you feel frustrated with yourself, stop to consider that maybe, just maybe, you’re doing the best that you can.
Sit down with a piece of paper and divide it in half. On one side, write down the voices of your inner gremlins. What exactly are they saying? Are they calling you lazy, selfish, mean? On the second side, consider what inner and external factors affected your actions or decisions. Consider the emotional, physical, historical, and financial obstacles you face.
As you review your list of obstacles in contrast with your negative self-talk, summon compassion and kindness for your inner self. If she is struggling, you can ease her burden by quieting the self-judgment and replacing those negative messages with an honest truth: That you’re doing the best you can with the resources at your disposal.
Risk Is Everyone ‘s Best Friend And Worst Nightmare
Facing Our Fears in Science Fiction Essay
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Sports Has Changed American History
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Effect Of Drinking On College Students
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Victor Frankenstein ‘s Responsibility Of The Creature ‘s Evil Actions
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Bullying : A Victim Of Harassment And Humiliation
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The Lion, The Witch And The Wardrobe
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The American Of American History
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The Case of the Temperamental Talent
Lexus through the company parking lot and drove the short distance to the highway, where the usual rush-hour traffic awaited him. As he slowly made his way home, he reflected on Ken’s career at Tidewater. Ken was one of the best and the brightest, and everyone recognized his value to the company. Bob_had personally recruited him to head their design department. Tough, aggressive, smart. ‘ T h a t was Ken. He had a unique ability to handle complex design problems and create innovative
The Case of the Temperamental Talent
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Teen Plastic Surgery
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Which is correct — ‘All the best everyone’ or ‘All the best to everyone’?
- “All the best, everyone”
- “All the best to everyone”
As mentioned by the others, both are correct; yet they slightly differ in function. To make it easy to understand, just replace everyone with a specific person we call Jimmy. Let’s also use the complete expression:
- “I wish you all the best, Jimmy!” = You are talking directly to Jimmy. (He has to be in the room.)
- “I wish all the best to Jimmy!” = You are talking indirectly about Jimmy. (Whether he is in the room or not, you can use this.)
Having understood this, go back to addressing “everyone”. I think you will now feel the slight difference be.
What to do when everyone’s living their best life, except you
How to live your best life starting right now.
So your best friend got the promotion she wanted. Your brother is going out with the girl of his dreams. Even your parents are enjoying their retirement and posting pictures of their adventures on Facebook. Everywhere you look, people are enjoying themselves; they are happy, they are wealthy, and they are successful.
Still struggling to figure out what to do with your life?
You don’t exactly hate your job, but you don’t love it either. You spend more time scrolling through other people’s Instagram feeds and wishing you were the one in those photos — because let’s face it — people want to see success, they want to see wealth, they want to see the best life has to offer.
And when you don’t have stuff like that to share, it feels pretty miserable. It impacts on your mental health and wellbeing.
“Where’s my happily ever after? Why isn’t my life as great as theirs? Why do some people have everything? Why can’t I be happy?”
These questions and much more come into your mind over and over in the quiet hours when you are not immersed in the world of social media or living through the lens of other people’s lives. These are the hard, uncomfortable moments that shine a light on your reality, harshly illuminating every corner of the life you find lacking or unfulfilled.
These are the moments of discomfort and disquiet that keep your thoughts going round and round in circles. Their inevitable outcome: you feel depressed, anxious, unworthy. Wondering where it went wrong for you. Or what quick fixes you can use to make it all better. And you’ve spent so long thinking the same cycle of thoughts that there is no room for new ones to come in.
During these moments it’s easy to forget that what you are basing your judgements on — those posts on social media, those snippets of conversation, those texts and emojis — are often just a snapshot of people’s lives. Those glamorous selfies, perfect makeup, stunning smiles are but a moment.
When you begin to compare yourself to others — to who has the more beautiful body, more money, more luck, more time for luxurious travel — your brain does everything it can to confirm your theory. It’s the same when you see a photo of someone standing next to an expensive car — you automatically assume that the vehicle is part of their opulent lifestyle — it’s one of the many toys they have. In reality, they may have just posed for a selfie with someone else’s car parked on the street or in a showroom.
Yes, there are people with considerable wealth. Some have spent their lives working to amass their riches, while others are funding their lavish lifestyles with money from their inheritance.
Hating people for what they have doesn’t help you feel better. Yes, you may experience a temporary high if you say something mean, but the dopamine kick fades away. And let’s be honest — deep down, you know that the mean things you think, say and do are not you. You wouldn’t necessarily say these things to a person’s face, so why do it anonymously?
In the end, you are only hurting yourself. The time and attention you could have spent on building your wealth and attracting abundance, you chose to scuttle away on negative thoughts and actions. You are better than this.
I am not going to offer you a get-rich-quick scheme because I don’t have one. So if you are reading this for ways of making money fast, getting famous or living high — I’m sorry; this is not the article for you. What I can and do offer though, are ways you can live your best life now.
Your best life is one in which you are happy, fulfilled and content.
Your best life is one that is meaningful, inspiring and prosperous.
Your best life is one that is authentically yours.
There are three things I’d like you to remember to live your best life now: